Though I have said expressly in my profile that I prefer a single focus and want to be told if someone has other people in their lives (so I can figure out how to deal with it,) I keep having to find out well into the hot pursuit phase. Should I just get over hoping for monogamy so early in the game? One I feel I must have answered before, but can’t really remember. I just feel the other people involved would be hurt if they knew the exchanges their lover is having with me, even if it’s just over the phone, and making plans to meet. To put a fine point on it: yes, you’re hopelessly mired in tradition. It’s a blind spot shared with pretty much every single person who is dating online. The most pervasive trait that I see in online dating is mind-numbing hypocrisy. I know some of you may be thinking, what husband-like expectations do some women actually place on their boyfriends? That includes paying bills that you created, buying groceries, placing the responsibility of taking care of your child/children on him when he’s not the father…just to name a few.
Especially if you've spent most of your life hooking up or having casual sex.I live in a small retirement community with few men my age (54,) so online dating gives me access to a much broader field.It also means a much longer introductory phase, and an awkwardly pressured scenario – if on meeting we are not attracted. But in the course of the protracted conversation, when the tone becomes increasingly intimate and anticipatory, I have to repeatedly face the unexpected revelation that the man I am “involved” with is involved, literally, with someone else, typically, an old girlfriend who is now a sex partner and good friend." conversation because they fear looking like they're moving too fast or look desperate. If I develop feelings for someone and want to continue seeing them and I think they feel the same way, I will assume that they're not longer sleeping with anyone but I still ask to be clear. I agree with what PP said, sometimes you don't want to seem like you're moving too fast but I'd rather know than get my feelings hurt later. If you haven't defined the relationship, you may not think it's the same as the other person... A lot of people "casually date" which means they are taking to and seeing multiple people (not always sleeping with but maybe). In NYC, if you don't have the talk, you're not exclusive.Luckily I've always been responded to with "no, why are you? My friend was friends wth a guy for 2 years and they started dating.